How many travel and expat bloggers out there have wonderfully successful international relationships that they are more than happy to share with the world? As much as I love reading those stories, from my own years spent in Spain I have learned that dating abroad is not all sunshine and fairytales, and it has been idealized online far too often. Have you ever dated, had a fling or fallen in love abroad? Tell us about it! How did it end? It seems like a dream…you move to a mysterious new land, meet a handsome stranger and fall hopelessly, passionately in love.
First, some upsides to international love. I met a fantastic guy, I became fluent in Spanish from constantly conversing with my novio and his friends and family in their language. But, just like any relationship, there are some aspects that are extremely difficult
Hookup a man from a different country painful. The difficult parts are often exacerbated in a foreign land as you are introduced to new cultural practices, beliefs and values.
This should serve as a caution to starry-eyed girls who go abroad looking for a fairy tale…like a certain 20 year old I once knew. Use your head, chica. Each year, thousands of Americans and international students move to these hotspot cities looking for an adventure, and men absolutely take advantage of this.
If a man picks you up in one of these situations, be wary. Oftentimes, the men that frequent these places are just looking for a fling, banking on the fact that a ton of girls are hoping to fall in love. You may not be in love with him. Moving away from home to a foreign land presents a multitude of new experiences that could influence your feelings during this time. Between the yummy food, flowing drinks and new adventures, your pleasure center is constantly stimulated.
Mix in a relationship with all these feelings and emotions and it becomes hard to distinguish how you feel about the person versus how you feel towards life in general at this time.
Would you be in love with this guy if you were back in your home town? Would you want him to meet your parents? This one pertains solely to relationships where there is a language You could be as fluent as a non-native can be, but it is nearly impossible to truly understand humor or complicated emotion in a language that is not your mother tongue.
Things like dry humor, sarcasm, and goofy jokes are extremely difficult to accurately translate. This makes for a lot of frustration and, more than likely, many unnecessary fights. This has been a theme in each of the previous points. You have a visa, and visas expire. This means one of two things. You have to either accept your romance as nothing more than a fling, or, you have to commit. This is, of course, up to you.
My point is that in order to protect yourself from heartbreak and disappointment, there is a lot to consider before entering into a love affair abroad.
So, I hope that I can help at least one person to make the most of their time abroad. To immerse yourself, to love, and to explore, but to be aware, conscious, and smart.
You may find the man of your dreams. Your email address will not be published. I think committing to the expat life absolutely makes things easier; with study abroad, you unfortunately HAVE to go back. In any case, difficult to start something with someone in a totally new situation and culture, and often we unknowingly risk so much. This post hits oh-so-very near to my little corazon.
I initially had more qualms to my relationship with my Rico Suave, an English-wielding pilot named Enrique. But we eventually did break up when I realized Spain may not be it for me. It is so easy to fall into a dreamy, jaded state when abroad, and overlook all the potential issues and risks that could lead to heart break. It makes me so happy to hear that you and your Rico Suave have gotten through all that and are happily together! I spent a semester in Costa Rica and watched a lot of friends deal with a lot of heartbreak…I on the other hand lived a true fairy tale I am still living it.
Oh my goodness, I am currently studying abroad in Costa Rica and have met the most wonderful tico who has been so good to me. I really want our relationship to work out and after reading the synopsis of your book I have more hope for us.
Thank you so much! I am currently studing abroad Hookup a man from a different country Costa Rica as well! I have met his mother and his friends they are Hookup a man from a different country so great… but I sometimes forget I might not be able to live here forever. I met someone when I was working abroad in Kenya this year. We dated for 3 monthsI fell in love with him, the most in love I have ever felt for anyone in my life.
We both cried often before I left back home to Canada, knowing my "Hookup a man from a different country" expired. We are both unsure of our future together considering neither of us are financial stable, both just students who graduated. Secondly its likely my country would never accept him as a resident or citizen because of such strict immigration regulations.
As for me, I would go back to Kenya in a heartbeat, I love the country. But I see it all becoming so expensive down the road, plus living in a developing country is not always easy.
My best bet is to get dual citizen andlive in Kenya permanently. Not to mention, his work and livimg conditions are poor. It kills me and makes me cry that I cannot be there to help him, and support him through the hardships in his life. Hi Nicole, I would really like to know how things are right now. I met a wonderful guy whilst on a solo trip, but it was an unusual dreamy story right off the bat.
I decided not to give up. I invited him to visit me, and he came for a month. We travelled around together and fell deeply in love. Fast forward four years, we are getting married next year, lived in three different countries and given up countless things big and small to be together.
He is going back to visit one of places we travelled to together the first time with his sister and booked the same hotel we stayed at. It lasted 6 years, ready to get married and tying to have a baby. But we were settle together with our own house and everything.
Having a relationship abroad is the same as having a relationship with anybody else if there is real love. Check out this great guest post! You may not be in love with him Moving away from home to a foreign land presents a multitude of new experiences that could influence your feelings during this time.
My two biggest pieces of advice: Written by Liz and was published on February 18, in ConfessionsEuropeguestLiving in SpainMoving to SpainSpain and tagged in expatfalling in loveloveSpainstudy-abroad.
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